Gone Too Soon


“Shiny and sparkly
And splendidly bright
Here one day
Gone one night”

– Michael Jackson, “Goon Too Soon”

I wouldn’t say I was close with Ashley, but we crossed paths now and then. We were friendly. Acquaintances. We hadn’t talked regularly in years, but I remembered her fondly. It seems like just yesterday that we were in college, chatting in class.

She knew I did freelance design and web work and always thought of me when potential clients popped up. She emailed me a little over a month ago and I never responded to her email. I got caught up in the minutiae of my life and I figured I’d get to it eventually. I never did.

I was out with my sister on Saturday and we were getting much needed massages. Feeling relaxed and refreshed, I got dressed and picked up my phone and a friend texted me, “Just heard the news about Ashley Gammon”. I responded, “Wait, what???” But I already knew what that meant. When you get texts like that, you know it’s something tragic.

I can’t pretend to understand the grief her family or close friends are going through. We may not have kept in touch regularly, but Ashley’s death shook me to my core. I can’t stop thinking about it.

30 year olds aren’t supposed to die.

Especially those as beautiful, vibrant and successful as Ashley was. She still had so much life to live.

Sometimes it takes death to remind us that life is a finite gift. Make time for those who are important to you. Make an impact in the time you have, because you never know when this ride will end. Judging from the outpouring of memories and remarks on her Facebook page alone, Ashley did just that.


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    Rodrick Amy ( Adrian Gillihan Amy's Son)
    January 12, 2016 at 2:15 pm

    I love you and yes it is sad that you left at an early age in life I pray God keeps you close to him and I pray that he watches over you. My heart goes out to your dad I love you all very much please know that. I hope that God keeps the rest of our family .

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    March 7, 2016 at 3:06 am

    I knew her from high school and am devastated. She was so wonderful. Have they said what happened?

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    August 12, 2016 at 9:39 pm

    I am just now hearing about this! I feel awful that I am so out of the loop that I didn’t even know this happened? This is shocking and sad and devastating. Thank you for honoring her by posting this Shari. Ashley was inspirational to me. I wanted to be like her in a lot of ways. She and I were definitely close during our Mizzou years, but we lost touch as the years went by. Of course I regret that now. I was so proud of her and everything she was doing in DC. if you have more information please share! Brittany (formerly Brittany Davis, BJ ’07)

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